...Or rather, the thinks I think (although I am pretty sure that almost every other parent has had these thoughts run through their heads at some stage).
1. Thank heavens for Afrikaans. I guess other countries have their own second languages but, really, what would we do without Die Taal? How would we complain about the kids while they're standing right in front of us, relate goss that's really not for little ones' ears, or talk about people they know? The only drawback is that one can get so into the habit you start using Afrikaans to talk about other adults around you, forgetting that they understand it, too.
2. I hope no one is looking at me. Back when James and I were firm-bodied and childless, we holidayed at a resort where we spent an afternoon laughing at a woman whose favourite pastime appeared to be throwing a stick at her son and watching him fetch it. "Why doesn't she just get a dog!" we chortled. Ah, there is no laughter so loud as that of the child-free. Fast forward ten years and there I was last Friday, in a restaurant nogal, throwing sticks while my daughter and nephew crawled on all fours, barking and panting as they raced to fetch them, then carrying them back to me in their mouths. Nonchalantly I rubbed their stomachs and scratched behind their ears, pretending all the while that there was no difference between them and the children seated quietly on their chairs, sipping milkshakes. And on that note...
3. I don't really like my dogs any more. Before you get all judgey and SPCA-ish, let me inform you that my dogs have never been well-liked. Just ask our neighbours, who mounted a 'Leave the suburb' campaign against us, prompted by their incessant barking (it ended in a particularly nasty email exchange during the festive season, with the final word going to James: "Just remember, Steven, people might complain about our dogs but everyone in the whole road actually hates you. Have a nice Christmas".) It seems that Sherpa, in particular, is engaged in a contest against himself to see how much he can irritate me: loudly scampering with his clattery claws on the wooden floors as he follows me to Leya's room when I am bringing her in from a nap drive, having just driven through three suburbs listening to 'Sophia's sleep song' on repeat. Puffing out liver-coloured clouds of foul air, and following me from room to room when I try to escape them, robbing each new spot of its oxygen. Licking Jessica's face shortly after he has routed her pooh nappies from the bin and feasted on them. Proving the futility of a home exercise programme by mounting me from behind when I try to do the plank (thanks, but no). Shedding so much fur that white hair is found everywhere, even in the folds of Jessie's several chins, where they remain stuck thanks to her prodigious drooling.
4. Will I ever be clean again. (Skip this part if you are easily grossed out). I can handle the vomit crust that permanently bedecks my left shoulder; have become accustomed to it, even. But Jessica really took things a bridge too far the other day when, while she was sitting on my lap, I heard a sound like a truck backfiring. We were in a book shop at the time - a quiet haven for literary types seeking classical music and the gentle rustle of pages to block out the world's bustle. Instead, they received a front row ticket to the aftermath of the poohcano: it took 15 minutes and a packet of wipes to clean up Jessie's liqui-pooh, all the while trying to shield the books from the spatters sparking off her windmilling feet. An ordeal, yes, but nothing in comparison to the walk to the car wearing a dress with a 15cm brown wet patch. And, just in case I thought no one would notice, Leya set me straight: "Mom, everyone can see you and they're all laughing," she assured me. For a three-year-old, she has a highly developed sense of schadenfreude.
5. What is that thing in the mirror. At my university residence, there was a mirror placed in the hallway where I would always give myself one last look before heading out for a night out at the Union. I was always amazed by the body swap that took place without my knowledge during the night, so that the girl who left with all her makeup in the right place came back with mascara on her upper lip and chewing gum in her hair (apparently, I find it impossible to be well-groomed and tipsy at the same time).
A similar metamorphosis has taken place during my adulthood: I started off with everything where it should be, but just the other day, my boobs brushed my belly button while I was brushing my teeth. That shouldn't happen to anyone. And speaking of belly buttons: mine looks like the epicentre of a volcanic explosion - thanks, stretch marks. And the actual stomach itself blobs about like those moving bits inside a lava lamp. Then there are the eyes, as haunted and staring as those of a war victim, thanks to the fact that all four of us (yes, even Jessie, who refuses to sleep unless she is on my chest) now camp out in one bed, and the exhaustion that ensues. Admittedly, I don't have it as badly as James, who regularly sleeps with his head on his bedside table because of Leya's star-fishing.
1. Thank heavens for Afrikaans. I guess other countries have their own second languages but, really, what would we do without Die Taal? How would we complain about the kids while they're standing right in front of us, relate goss that's really not for little ones' ears, or talk about people they know? The only drawback is that one can get so into the habit you start using Afrikaans to talk about other adults around you, forgetting that they understand it, too.
2. I hope no one is looking at me. Back when James and I were firm-bodied and childless, we holidayed at a resort where we spent an afternoon laughing at a woman whose favourite pastime appeared to be throwing a stick at her son and watching him fetch it. "Why doesn't she just get a dog!" we chortled. Ah, there is no laughter so loud as that of the child-free. Fast forward ten years and there I was last Friday, in a restaurant nogal, throwing sticks while my daughter and nephew crawled on all fours, barking and panting as they raced to fetch them, then carrying them back to me in their mouths. Nonchalantly I rubbed their stomachs and scratched behind their ears, pretending all the while that there was no difference between them and the children seated quietly on their chairs, sipping milkshakes. And on that note...
3. I don't really like my dogs any more. Before you get all judgey and SPCA-ish, let me inform you that my dogs have never been well-liked. Just ask our neighbours, who mounted a 'Leave the suburb' campaign against us, prompted by their incessant barking (it ended in a particularly nasty email exchange during the festive season, with the final word going to James: "Just remember, Steven, people might complain about our dogs but everyone in the whole road actually hates you. Have a nice Christmas".) It seems that Sherpa, in particular, is engaged in a contest against himself to see how much he can irritate me: loudly scampering with his clattery claws on the wooden floors as he follows me to Leya's room when I am bringing her in from a nap drive, having just driven through three suburbs listening to 'Sophia's sleep song' on repeat. Puffing out liver-coloured clouds of foul air, and following me from room to room when I try to escape them, robbing each new spot of its oxygen. Licking Jessica's face shortly after he has routed her pooh nappies from the bin and feasted on them. Proving the futility of a home exercise programme by mounting me from behind when I try to do the plank (thanks, but no). Shedding so much fur that white hair is found everywhere, even in the folds of Jessie's several chins, where they remain stuck thanks to her prodigious drooling.
4. Will I ever be clean again. (Skip this part if you are easily grossed out). I can handle the vomit crust that permanently bedecks my left shoulder; have become accustomed to it, even. But Jessica really took things a bridge too far the other day when, while she was sitting on my lap, I heard a sound like a truck backfiring. We were in a book shop at the time - a quiet haven for literary types seeking classical music and the gentle rustle of pages to block out the world's bustle. Instead, they received a front row ticket to the aftermath of the poohcano: it took 15 minutes and a packet of wipes to clean up Jessie's liqui-pooh, all the while trying to shield the books from the spatters sparking off her windmilling feet. An ordeal, yes, but nothing in comparison to the walk to the car wearing a dress with a 15cm brown wet patch. And, just in case I thought no one would notice, Leya set me straight: "Mom, everyone can see you and they're all laughing," she assured me. For a three-year-old, she has a highly developed sense of schadenfreude.
5. What is that thing in the mirror. At my university residence, there was a mirror placed in the hallway where I would always give myself one last look before heading out for a night out at the Union. I was always amazed by the body swap that took place without my knowledge during the night, so that the girl who left with all her makeup in the right place came back with mascara on her upper lip and chewing gum in her hair (apparently, I find it impossible to be well-groomed and tipsy at the same time).
A similar metamorphosis has taken place during my adulthood: I started off with everything where it should be, but just the other day, my boobs brushed my belly button while I was brushing my teeth. That shouldn't happen to anyone. And speaking of belly buttons: mine looks like the epicentre of a volcanic explosion - thanks, stretch marks. And the actual stomach itself blobs about like those moving bits inside a lava lamp. Then there are the eyes, as haunted and staring as those of a war victim, thanks to the fact that all four of us (yes, even Jessie, who refuses to sleep unless she is on my chest) now camp out in one bed, and the exhaustion that ensues. Admittedly, I don't have it as badly as James, who regularly sleeps with his head on his bedside table because of Leya's star-fishing.
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